5 Steps To Get Her To Role Play

5 Steps To Get Her To Role Play

1- Use subtle hints to get her attention
It's no secret that communication is the key to any relationship. At the first sign of boredom -- whether it's hers or yours -- gently bring up new ways to spice up your sex life. Subtle hints like "You would look so sexy in something like that" when you pass a lingerie/sex store or "I'd like to put the cuffs on you tonight" when you see a cop are great ways to plant the first seeds of a healthy dose of role playing.

Keep in mind, however, that it's crucial to gauge her reaction to your subtle hints. If you come on too strong at first, there is a good chance you'll come off as "creepy nympho guy" and she'll shut the idea down before it even has a chance to get off the ground.

On the flip side, if you don't come on strong enough, she might take your subtle hints as nothing more than everyday flirting. If that's the case, you can prepare yourself for yet another night of three minutes of missionary-style sex with the lights off.

2- Defuse any uneasiness with humor
There is a fine line between bringing your woman into the fantasy world of being someone else and telling her she is a boring lay. The best way to make the transition is to use humor. Using humor puts you in control of the situation in a way that is non-threatening to her. Think about it for a second: Nobody is ever afraid of the guy doing stand up at the Funny Bone comedy club.

The same applies in the beginning stages of role playing. Cracking a joke about what a weird request you have or how silly you feel for even thinking of such a thing is a great way to make your girlfriend feel comfortable about a situation she may initially feel uneasy about.

3- Encourage her to express her fantasies
The last thing you want to do is show up at her door with a blonde wig and a cheerleading outfit for her and nothing for you. It's not exactly fair for her if you're the only one who's getting to live out your fantasy about being with someone else. If you do that, it won't take her long to figure out the whole thing is just about you and has nothing to do her or your relationship.

Encourage her to live out a few of her own role-playing fantasies by going into sex shops together and having her pick out something for you. That way, you'll make her feel like this plan is every much her idea as it yours. You'll also send a clear message that you are so confident in the relationship that she can fantasize about somebody other than you.

4- Take the situation seriously
While cracking jokes and being funny may have gotten you to this point, it will only get you on the couch for the night if you break the mood and laugh at her. The goal is to make her feel comfortable and you can't do that by making fun of how she looks, how she sounds or what she's doing.

So much of role playing is about being in the right state of mind. It's damn near impossible to get to the mental place you need to be if you think somebody is laughing at you or judging every move you make. If you take the situation seriously and show her some respect, she will do the same thing for you. If you don't, you'll be lucky to even get the "three minutes of missionary-style sex with the lights off" ever again.

5- Deal with your own insecurities
It can be pretty stunning at first to see how much your woman can get into this. You're bringing out a part of her you never thought you would see -- her with somebody else. It's easy to get a little intimidated the first time you hear her moan "Harder Miguel" or "I love your big rod."

Women can smell your insecurity like dogs can smell fear. The key is to be confident and never forget that you're the one getting her off -- not anybody else. role playing is fantasy, it's not real, and neither are your concerns about her being with someone else.